What to do, when you don’t know what to do?

This Friday post has turned into a Saturday ramble, and that’s okay. Because life gets a little hard and timeliness takes a bench to necessities. Such as sleep. And tea-making.

What’s up with the funny title? Allow me to explain. As recently stated, life can be hard. There are times when options seem few and far between. Or maybe too many. Is there a difference? The end result is something that feels like an impasse of the mind and a veritable Mount Everest of stress-inducing sh!t with which to deal.

But certainly, at some point, action needs to take place. A decision, a movement, a play in the game of life. It’s like chess, you’re not allowed to not make a move. Throwing one away is accepted, but it’s still a choice. Good choices, however, may include taking a step back and giving time and space to see what could be done next. When challenges come ’round, checking in with, dare I say the most over-used and under-appreciated word in the millennial vocabulary, self-care, may be just the thing that’s needed.

I’ve noticed that attempting to tackle the big “problem” or major “issues” first rarely works. That final paper? Let’s just start with finding where you left your laptop under the two months worth of dirty laundry. Rejected visa and about to be potentially fined and kicked out of the EU? Let’s just get the employer’s kids home from school in once piece. (Both equally true stories.) Whatever your series of unavoidable, uncomfortable, and overwhelming situations are, start doing. Even if it’s actually doing nothing, or something super, duper tiny.

Everyone’s path is a little different. All I’m here to do is say, hey, we’re not alone. Our I-don’t-know-what-I’m-doing moments are unique, but our responses to them probably are not. We’ve been beaten down before, but we got back up, so maybe we can do it one, more, time.

So, without further ado, here are Natalie’s top ways to regroup and get back to your path, whatever that may be. Feel free to try them out.

  1. Hug someone (animal friends count) and tell them that you love and care for them.
  2. Make some tea or other healing beverage.
  3. Watch a comedy (Bridesmaids is my personal favorite that always makes me feel better.)
  4. Make a journal entry including 3 gratitudes.
  5. Clean literally anything. Purse, horse, clothes, desk, phone, toenails, whatevah.
  6. Make a list. Hell, it doesn’t even have to be relating to your current issue. Make it a list of top ideal Hollywood stars you’d like to see run a marathon, just to watch them suffer.
  7. Make another list, this time with your next steps to solve {{insert problem}}.
  8. Go back to bed and continue watching movies and drinking tea.
  9. Get out of bed, clean that, and then check your second list. Up to doing anything on that list?
  10. Repeat steps 1-8 until 9 seems sorta feasible.
  11. You know what to do.

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