22 Things That Happen at 22

  1. You are no longer enticed by the novelty of walking into a liquor store.
  2. You are finally sick of being asked for ID.
  3. You are still obsessed enough with alcohol for your first three items in a list to be about alcohol.
  4. You just graduated.
  5. You just graduated and you can’t get a job in your field.
  6. You just graduated and you can’t get a job working a cash register.
  7. Everyone you know does have that shitty job you can’t get.
  8. You are suddenly wondering if you majored in the right thing.
  9. You are suddenly wondering if you are currently pursuing the right job/grad program.
  10. You are officially completely done dealing with school.
  11. The weight of your loans has officially become crushing.
  12. You are living in a constant state of denial that lets you dissociate from that crushing weight.
  13. You finally have disposable income and holy fuck is it great.
  14. You don’t have disposable income but your SO sure does and holy fuck is it great.
  15. You have nothing to do and you almost want work so you stop being restless.
  16. When you do get work, it does not stop you from being restless.
  17. In fact, you are more restless.
  18. This is why you will try to start 500 projects.
  19. One of the projects might stick.
  20. You will care more than you expect.
  21. You generally care more than you admit.
  22. You don’t know what being 22 is supposed to mean.
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What Does Graduation Mean When You Go Right Back to More College?

Graduation is weird when you aren’t done.

Saturday I’m going to stand in Madison Square Garden and get a degree.

  1. I have not been able to get a job working a cash register.
  2. I am going to school in the Fall.

What even does graduation mean at that point?

I’m getting a Bachelor’s degree in Religion and English and my main source of income is selling things on Etsy. (Yes, that is hyperlinked. No, I will never not take the chance to send you to my shop.)

My life feels pretty weird right now. I am super not an adult, and yet, I’m moving into an apartment, I’m getting my own loans (woo debt), I have my own credit line I can’t afford to use (woo, more debt), and here we are, I’m about to have a college degree that theoretically should get me a real person job that I’m not going to even look for.

So what does a degree mean when you aren’t going to use it? When you are going right back into school again?

It means, well, “one small step”, I guess.

Wednesday Warriors – Kat Blaque

I…love Kat Blaque. Like so much. Because 1) her style is A+, and 2) all of her videos are poignant and insightful. She has made me understand things and change my views over and over again through her education. She is unapologetic and amazing.

Is this post just going to be me gushing? Maybe. I love her.

Kat Blaque is a black trans woman YouTuber. Her YouTube videos focus on race, gender, and social justice issues, and she contributes to a bunch of websites including one of my faves, Everyday Feminism.

Kat really speaks best for herself, and I recommend watching her videos. Here is one of my favorites:

5 Uses for Roses that You Didn’t Know

This is a repost of a blog post from my business blog because I totally forgot to write a post this week. Oops.

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We all know roses are associated with love, but did you know the many other uses? Roses are a great beauty and health product, and here we list some of the ways you can otherwise use them.

Healing Chapped Skin

Rosebuds in a salve have an excellent healing property. This makes them great for dry and broken chapped skin. This includes dry lips, chapped hands, ashy elbows, and other dryness problems all over the body. It also protects against and aides in healing chafing.

I want your opinion! Do you want me to expand and include healing salves among my products? Comment below to let me know!

Skin Anti-aging and Other Beauty Benefits

Roses provide a plethora of beauty benefits it’s impossible to list. Drinking the tea will certainly benefit your skin, but when put in a facial steamer, it helps even more. It can regulate the pH of your skin, unclog pores, and removed dark spots and aging effects.

If you want to learn how to do a facial steamer, download our free PDF!

Bringing Good Luck

640px-Dried_Roses_(4260289056)Magickally, roses are associated to love and beauty. But did you know that they were also associated with luck? Rose petals or buds can be put in satchels or teas to encourage luck, particularly in love, but in all areas of life, and can enhance luck spells alongside more specifically intentioned herbs.

This benefit is increased when paired with other lucky herbs and oils, like orange and gardenia in our LUCKY soy essential oil candle.

Warding the Evil Eye

Roses aren’t necessarily what you think of as a protective herb, but they can be used in warding against evil intentions. Place rose petals in protection satchels and charms to enhance their protective properties, particularly against the Evil Eye.

Welcoming Friendly Spirits

If you have interest in spirit work, roses can be helpful as well. An atypical use, rose petals can be added to spirit communication spells to encourage friendly, positive spirits to communicate with the caster.

Do you use roses in your beauty and health routine, or your craft? Let me know how you use them by commenting below!

Book Review – The $100 Startup

So it’s no secret that I own an Etsy shop (psst, click here), and recently I’ve been on a kick of reading any and all advice I can get my hands on as I try to scale up. With that goal, I picked up this book, because minimum monetary investment is what this poor college kid is looking for.

The quality of this book really depends on what you are looking for. For me, reading this book put me in the “ready to work” mode; it’s inspiring. The book is full of success stories that started in the smallest ways.

If you are looking for guidance you might be missing out. I only suggest picking up this book for the sake of guidance if plan on selling a service rather than a product. Most of the book’s actual advice is geared toward those people who want to sell consulting or some other service.

However, the resources on 100startup.com are helpful for establishing a business plan. As the philosophy of the book goes, there is no point in a twenty-page business plan that no one will ever see; the website provides a single sheet that will get you together.

All in all, the book is inspiring but rather unhelpful. John Doe quit his corporate job, opened up shop, struggled and then succeeded. The stories are personalized enough that you care about him; they don’t provide you any concrete guidance. I suggest picking up a different book if you are looking for any actual help.

Wednesday Warriors – Mary Wollstonecraft

Mary Wollstonecraft is our Wednesday Warrior for the sake of her work A Vindication of the Rights of Women, which I highly suggest everyone read. It is an early review of the socialization of women and how their perceived “inferiority” is largely a product of society, in particular, a lack of education. That is, women fitting the paradigm of the weaker sex only occurs due to social conditions. However, Mary’s unconventional life made critics lessen her credibility during her lifetime.

In London, Wollstonecraft persued artist Henry Fuseli, already married, and proposed a platonic living arrangement that his wife rejected. Following this rejection, Wollstonecraft left to travel France. There she fell in love with Gilbert Imlay, becoming pregnant and giving birth to a girl she named Fanny.  When Britain declared war on France, he registered Wollstonecraft as his wife though they were not married.

Imlay left Wollstonecraft, and she attempted suicide. He saved her life, and in an attempt to win him over again, she went on business to Scandinavia for him. When it became apparent that their relationship was over, she attempted suicide again. She was rescued by a stranger.

She eventually started a relationship with William Godwin, and became pregnant. The pair decided to marry to grant their child legitimacy. This revealed that she had not been married to Imlay, and lost Wollstonecraft many friends. The marriage also reflected badly on Godwin, who had advocated ending marriage in his treatise Political Justice. They moved into conjoined houses.

It was upon her death that Godwin released a memoir of Wollstonecraft, and this memoir revealed much of her unconventional life, including her illegitimate child and her suicide attempts. These were used to delegitimize her work, however, I seriously suggest reading it. She was clearly a woman who felt very deeply and passionately, and her work, especially Vindication is well-crafted.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

*Yes, this contains an affiliate link. I am a poor grad student, forgive me.*

 

Crystal Spotlight: Citrine

Could this also be titled Danny Wasn’t Prepared to Write a Blog Post? Yes. Yes it could, but here we are, strap on in and learn about citrine, one of my faves.

 

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I mean look at that, how can you not love it?

 

Citrine is a type of quartz, turned yellow/orange by its high iron content. Citrine, true to color, is a solar stone, energizing and healing. It is also a good stone for the Solar Plexus chakra, having to do with self-confidence and will power, which is again energized by solar energy.

Physically, citrine is good for issues of digestion, including stomach troubles, as well as the pancreas, endocrine problems, urinary problems, and immune problems.

Mentally, citrine, with its strong positivity, is good for self-confidence, alleviating depression, preventing self-destructive behavior, combating self-doubt, and avoiding anger.

It is an extremely positive stone and will not absorb negative energies. It is good to have around to promote positive energy in the area, and does not require cleansing. However, if you want to cleanse it, sun-cleansing is best for this solar stone. Use early morning light and do not leave the stone in direct, strong sunlight for any long period of time, as it will lose its color.

Most market citrine is heated amethyst or smokey quartz, but I personally do not believe that harms their quality in healing or spell-making.

Bonus fact: I sell citrine bracelets and earrings on Etsy, and will soon be adding more citrine listings. Sorry for the self-promo! Happy crystal using!

Wednesday Warriors – Maximillian Kolbe

So, I spent this spring break in Poland studying for a class on Religious dialogue after the Holocaust. We visited Auschwitz I and II, and everything about the trip hit powerfully. I wanted to do this week’s Wednesday Warrior on someone we heard a lot about.

Maximillian Kolbe was a Catholic priest and a Franciscan. He was the only one of his brothers to remain in the monastery in Poland after the beginning of the WWII invasion. He was in prison for three months before release, and later arrested, sent to prison again, and then transferred to Auschwitz.

As a priest, he experienced great violence and harassment in the camp. There is a rather well-known quote that new prisoners heard from Newly arrived prisoners were greeted at the camp by SS-Hauptsturmführer Fritzsch: ‘You have arrived not at a sanatorium but at a German concentration camp in which the only way out is through the chimney. If someone doesn’t like this, he may at once go to the wires. If there are any Jews in this transport, they have no right to live longer than two weeks. If there are any priests, they may live for a month, the rest only three months.’

During his second month in Auschwitz, there was an escape attempt. Prisoners, including Kolbe, were forced to stand before Fritzsch as he choice 10 prisoners to punish to deter further attempts. One of the men chosen cried out about his children and his wife, and Kolbe volunteered himself because as a priest, he did not have a family to be there for after the war. The substitution was allowed.

These prisoners were taken to a starvation cell, too small for the number of people. After two weeks in the cell, Kolbe still survived, and was killed with lethal injection. Later, he was sainted as a matyr.

There are two major ways to respond to the types of horror that people experienced in the camp. There is complete selfishness, self-preservation, a thing that none of us can blame anyone for truly. Then there is the attempts to maintain goodness and kindness, to be selfless and help those who are suffering even as you suffer. Those who make this choice exist to remind us that it is possible, in the hardest times, in the worst times, for there to be good.

And yeah, I just wrote about a Catholic guy in the Holocaust. So I want to say: the Holocaust is a Jewish tragedy and to say otherwise is utterly ridiculous regardless of the other people who died and were targeted. Of the few people approaching the level of targeting the Jews were at, the Catholics were certainly not one. But I am a Catholic, and we do love our saints.

Wednesday Warriors – Audre Lorde

Alright y’all, for my first Wednesday Warriors, get ready for a good ol’ lesson in feminists you should know.

Audre Lorde was a black, lesbian poet, essayist, and novelist born of immigrants in New York City. She wrote on many injustices, such as racism, misogyny, and homophobia. Her position as outsider led to her poetry frequently dealing with issues of difference between one’s self-understanding as well as one’s interaction amidst groups.

She is recognized as a starting point for the concept of intersectionality, arguing in her essays that while feminists made the distinction between man and woman, class, race, sexual orientation, among other things, were also deeply important issues in understanding one’s experience a woman; these things could not be separated from each other.

I talk about her now as a white feminist because of the proliferation of White Feminism™. It is important right now to commit to issues of rights in regards to race, gender, and sexual orientation, and for those white people who find their activist identities in feminism, it is important for us to understand exactly where we stand among multiple intersections. Audre Lorde’s work in this area is insightful, digestible, and enlightening, and I highly suggest reading, at minimum “Age, Race, Class, and Sex: Women Redefining Difference” (available with a google search I won’t link you to because legality is a whole question I don’t want to get involved in).

And of course, as we cannot forget that she is a poet, we can end on a poem of hers titled “A Woman Speaks”

Moon marked and touched by sun
my magic is unwritten
but when the sea turns back
it will leave my shape behind.
I seek no favor
untouched by blood
unrelenting as the curse of love
permanent as my errors
or my pride
I do not mix
love with pity
nor hate with scorn
and if you would know me
look into the entrails of Uranus
where the restless oceans pound.
I do not dwell
within my birth nor my divinities
who am ageless and half-grown
and still seeking
my sisters
witches in Dahomey
wear me inside their coiled cloths
as our mother did
mourning.
I have been woman
for a long time
beware my smile
I am treacherous with old magic
and the noon’s new fury
with all your wide futures
promised
I am
woman
and not white.